Da Goddess

Today was an extremely long day. Had an appt. with the doctor who does my rating for the insurance company. The appointment should have taken an hour. It took lots longer than that.

Bottom line: he says I’ll need lifetime medical with my settlement. That was sort of a shocker. As was the news that there may already be some degeneration above my cervical fusion. That was cause for pause. It shouldn’t be happening.

Had a long talk with my dad today (he was the one who drove me to my appointment). Interesting. Don’t know that it got me anywhere, but his input was greatly appreciated and it was nice to spend time with him.

In other news, my hair is way too long, I’ve decided. It seems like it grew three inches overnight. Don’t know how that happened, but it’s bothersome.

Hmm, what else? Oh yeah, Merriman was placed under citizen’s arrest by fame whore Tila Tequila. Normally I wouldn’t comment on this, but it did make me stop to think a bit. So here’s the thing:

Shawne, you’re supposed to be one of the good guys. No matter what, you NEVER EVER touch a woman or try to restrain her, even if it’s supposedly for her benefit. If she’s drunk and trying to drive, do yourself a favor and call the cops. Also, don’t date trashy women looking for fame. You’re young, handsome, and have a million options…you could do better. Maybe you thought a reality “star” could raise your profile a la Hank and Kendra, but you picked the wrong woman.

Both Tila and Shawne were tweeting up a storm after the incident. Enough! Shawne, you want to clear your name? Let the attorneys do it. Tila? You’ve had more than your fair share of that 15 minutes. Go away.

Tila claims she doesn’t drink because she’s allergic to alcohol and that the name “Tequila” is supposed to be ironic. I don’t call that ironic. Nothing about you is ironic. Cheap and pathetic, yeah. But not ironic. While she claims she wasn’t drinking, the sheriff said she had been. And there seems to be some sort of recorded history of her drinking. Huh, ya think her MTV show might come back and bite her in the ass on that one?

I once forbid all my friends from appearing on reality TV…Tila is a prime example of why you should all want to stay away from anything “reality” based. And this incident is just one more event in a string of increasingly disturbing events (think the reality show contestant who murdered his wife and then killed himself) involving reality “stars”.

You know, you get involved with bad people, shit happens, and your reputation might not ever recover. Did Merriman use poor judgment? Was there an actual assault? We can’t know for certain. We may never know. It’s suddenly a case of he said, she said and there’s no way for Shawne to walk away from this looking good. His date…poor choice. His actions, even if they weren’t intended to be violent, they still come off as aggressive. And if this was a case of violence, then for shame and there better be consequences…but we’ll never know for sure. How do you separate fact from fiction when you’re dealing with someone whose life seems to revolve around that which is superficial and meant solely to create publicity?

If there’s any moral to this last bit, I guess it’s that you should choose your company carefully and always err on the side of caution. And especially from a woman’s perspective, you should never drink so much that you aren’t in full control of your faculties. Always keep your wits about you. And if you have been drinking, call a cab.

As for what I personally think, hmm, she was drunk and she had no injuries according to the sheriff…enough of the fame whore drama already.

Look, I’ve seen women, children, and even men who have been choked, beaten, held and assaulted, etc. I don’t condone violence of any kind. But if this turns out to be a figment of some publicity-seeking idiot, it hurts every other case for those who really have been attacked. I have a hard time believing much of what this woman says, not because Merriman is a pro athlete (quite the contrary). No, I have a hard time believing her because of her antics on TV and off. It’s hard to sort fact from fiction when you’re dealing with someone who lives in a public fishbowl and does whatever it takes to get their name in the papers or on TV. Which means, if the story is true, it becomes an even stickier wicket. I’ve seen women who lived hard lives who were raped and beaten. Their cases are always much more difficult to prove because of the way they lived. Is that right? No. But it’s how it often goes. And there are those who file false charges, further mucking up the system and that makes it harder for those who truly have suffered.

I don’t think this is making sense the way I wish it did. All I know is that were there a shred of evidence that this story were true (either the sheriff noting bruising or some sort of evidence of physical harm, of which there was none), I’d be calling for some serious consequences for Merriman. But for now, there’s little more than some fame junkie making accusations that look pretty damn flimsy.

For true victims, I have the deepest sympathy. Somehow I don’t see this as being such a case. And yet, it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth because…it so easily could be.