DaGoddess @ 00:55

I’m no longer “anything” in TTLB ecosystem. I have fallen off to the point where a search query results in nothing.

That’s kind of cool. It’s liking coming up with zero results on Google.

Or maybe the system has a glitch to work out. I dunno. It’s not important.

The point is: I’m not on the list. In some circles, I’ve been dubbed inconsequential. And I like it!

I do remember a time when it did matter to me, though. A time when I was amongst other names on the elite’s blogrolls. Not even stretching the truth a wee tiny on this one…I knew people and the blogosphere was smaller then.

A lot has changed since those days. Except…here’s the thing: a lot has also stayed the same. There are people on my blogroll who have been there since day one. Even someone who’s since died is still on my blogroll (just as his phone number is still listed on my cell phone) because he’s a part of it all. Plenty of names have fallen off the list and we no longer have anything in common. Or there were “issues”. Or they disappeared. Or blogrolling exploded. We lost touch. It’s okay. Time marches on.

What amazes me most is the fact that almost weekly I’ll run into someone from my past blogging glory and find I’m delighted over it. I quietly add them back to my list…or not. Just like I quietly add someone new…or not. I have more adding to do. If you saw my bookmarks, you’d understand.

But here’s the thing: I don’t want a blogroll a mile long anymore. I don’t want to have someone feel bad if their name isn’t there. Or if it is and I don’t comment regularly, they may feel bad.

Which comes back to me not showing up on TTLB’s ecosystem search. I used to care about these things. I don’t now. I have awesome readers here. Even if you don’t comment often (FOR SHAME! hehehe), you do come read and I get email. I need to vent, or I need advice, and you’re there for me. You need something, you email or call, and I can be there for you…that’s what matters.

I love that my world has expanded and contracted in such a beautiful way. Like some multi-colored Spirograph creation. It’s the density in the center that matters most. As lovely and airy as the outer rings are, the heart is where it counts. And those of you in that realm…you know who you are…you know you are loved…and that’s what really and truly means something.

Oh, me not being a part of a circle, ring, group, etc…inconsequential.

I got me some good peeps. If they call me inconsequential, I may have to rethink my life.


  1. A sampling of five blogs produced no results with TTLB, so I assume N. Z. Bear is presently busy with Real Life.

    Then again, I’ve been making mock of the divisions ever since this one Texas lawyer hard-coded his own blog to read “I’m a Frosted Toaster Pastry in the TTLB Ecosystem.”

    Comment by CGHill — 2009/10/14 @ 05:24

  2. I feel the same way. Seven years of blogging (with a couple of extended breaks) and I’m a nobody now, when I used to have a couple hundred readers and easily 50 comments per post. I really don’t miss that. Now I blog for me and no one reads, it doesn’t matter.

    Comment by Theresa — 2009/10/14 @ 05:27

  3. I know exactly what you mean… and that’s why I was almost relieved to start over. My blogroll… I like and read everyone on it… a far cry from yesteryear…

    And NZ Bear is no more relevant in the ‘sphere these days than I; the real power lies within google PR and such.

    So, yeah. :biggrin:

    Comment by Pam — 2009/10/14 @ 05:29

  4. Then there are those blogging newbies who don’t even know wtf “TTLB” is in the first place (cough, cough). Now that’s inconsequential!

    Comment by Stu — 2009/10/14 @ 06:43

  5. I’ve never registered on TTLB, so I really don’t miss it. But I do miss all of the visitors and commenters that I used to have; where did everyone go?

    Comment by Jan — 2009/10/14 @ 07:40

  6. I may be a nobody in the overall blogging world, but as one of my small handful of regulars it’s people like you that make me feel like somebody. Then again, that’s always how I liked things, just having a small close group of friends. I always thought popularity was seriously overrated. :hug:

    Comment by diamond dave — 2009/10/14 @ 08:53

  7. Goddess,
    I may lurk more than comment lately, but I still visit often. You are on my list of good peeps. =)

    I think I was a Wiggly Worm once…that was many, many moons ago.

    Comment by Amanda — 2009/10/14 @ 08:58

  8. Blogging for four years and I have no idea what TTLB is! And you are popular with me. :biggrin:

    Comment by foolery — 2009/10/14 @ 10:29

  9. Funny, I feel the same way – but you know, at the heart of it all, you’re not the least bit inconsequential. If you affect or influence just one person, that is one more than none. And after years of blogging, if you can put your words in front of just one person and impact them somehow, you’ve accomplished a wonderful thing.


    Comment by Leanne — 2009/10/14 @ 10:45

  10. :grouphug:

    I so seriously :heart: you all!

    Comment by DaGoddess — 2009/10/14 @ 11:38

  11. What’s a TTLB?




    Comment by patti — 2009/10/14 @ 13:11

  12. You’ll never be inconsequential to me. Ever.

    Comment by Miachelle — 2009/10/14 @ 16:11

  13. :rofl:

    You all cheer me incredibly!

    Comment by DaGoddess — 2009/10/14 @ 23:10

  14. And here’s me, gamely trying to keep up with the blogs I want to read (I begin to think it’s impossible *sigh*). I have a TTLB thing on my sidebar, but I never look at it… means nothing as I get my rank from being in the munu blogs – nice but since I get about 30 hits a day I know my rank is way inflated. :rofl:

    I really need to clean up my sidebar. What I have is a bunch of stuff I never ever even click on. I browse from my bookmarks or even from blog to blog via comments… there is so much I used to participate in, but just don’t have the time to do now. It all needs to be cleaned up. Oh well, one of these days when I have the time. ;)

    I hope you are feeling much better very soon (see I’m even consolidating comments cause I have to jump off the computer in a couple minutes to get other stuff done). I figure I blog because I like blathering – whether it gets heard or not… not such a big deal. :biggrin:

    Comment by Teresa — 2009/10/21 @ 12:39

  15. I have the same dead person on my blogroll and in my contact list (even though he won’t be answering the phone). I sure miss him in the ‘Sphere and in real life. Of course, you have been on my blogroll since just about Day One.

    Comment by Jim - PRS — 2009/10/23 @ 02:24

  16. I still have Acidman’s phone number in my cel phone. And you on my blogroll, though I’ve only posted once in a year and a half.

    You’re still good, even after years, you’re still good.

    Sunk New Dawn
    Galveston, TX

    Comment by Jim — 2009/11/14 @ 22:07

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