Da Goddess

I sent what I could. I'm sorry it isn't more.

Argh...I checked my Paypal account, and I only have .73¢ in it. I need to sell more toys on eBay...

I thought you had served in the military (or were a military spouse), if so please email me separately the time frame and dates. I will talk to my VFW and Legion post about sending a little support your way. I will not go into the details with this message.

Commander, VFW Post 9949
Adjutant, American Legion Post 105 (Past Commander)

Try to look at the bright side like I do (about what you're aware of). I don't know what bright side there is in your life, but there is one.

Just try to keep a cheerful smile on your face.

Don't worry, help is on the way: http://www.georgewbush.com/Agenda/Chapter.aspx?ID=1

wish I could send more!WHEN I win the lottery I will share some with you.

I had no idea you were going through such tough times. My prayers are with you & your son. Hugs!

Sell the camera. It's a 'want' not a 'need' and can be replaced when you are financially solvent again.
Cancel the hosting account; the domain is yours for a while. Same argument used for the camera.
Buy Top Ramen. The kid will learn he has to eat what's available nto what he wants.
No shame in public assistance (food stamps).
Unless you're above all that.

"bababooey",

Thanks to a packrat mentality and a Price Club membership, I have lots of canned and boxed foods in the cupboard, including Top Ramen, as I have a suspicion you well know. I have always been one of those people who tries to keep extras on hand - just in case. I'm more concerned with getting fruits, vegetables, and fresh milk into my son's belly.

My camera really wouldn't fetch much if I tried to sell it and it actually has the potential to earn me a little money. So that stays.

I wouldn't be "above" public assistance, I just don't qualify at the moment - in my own mind. Why do I say that? This is a very temporary situation for me. I do not intend for this to continue beyond the end of the month. For me to go down, fill out the forms, wait in a considerable line (San Diego is a large county), and then tie up the processor's time with my case, is not a constructive use of MY time. I could put that same energy into applying for more jobs, making more calls, and going out to interview. At the same time, by my not applying for food stamps, I am not taking up resources that would be better used for someone who is in a worse situation than I am. That's my take on it. Has nothing to do with whether or not I'm "above" that or not.

I'm doing the best I can and actively searching for a good job.

And, if you are who I think you are....your comment is downright laughable and I'm certain my response is not being met with the smirk you thought you'd get from it.

But, for the sake of argument, and full-disclosure to those who have been kind enough to care, here's a breakdown of expenses:

My hosting is prepaid, no refunds. So that's a non-issue. My cable is included in my rent. I don't run the air conditioning even though it's currently 8,002 degrees here. I use one strong fan to cool the place down.

Lights are off in rooms I'm not inhabiting at the moment. I run the dishwasher only when it's full. Same with clothing and I've taken to hanging things up to dry since it's so warm.

My TV is a 13" model. Color. But that was paid for last Christmas when I bought it for my son. As tempting as it was a month or two ago to buy a new, bigger set for myself, I refrained from doing so because I couldn't justify spending that money. I was still trying to catch up from everything else, including 11 months of supporting another adult who did not work the majority of that time.

I don't make long distance calls. The cell phone is a bare bones account, no bells, whistles, text messaging, games, or cameras and is one way for potential employers to contact me as I'm out on the road hunting for jobs. I still have to pay child support whether or not I'm working. I haven't made this month's payment yet, but I have notified everyone involved as to WHY. They can't get money I don't have. I must now also pay for COBRA for my daughter. In order to do that, *I* have to remain covered as well. That alone is $650 a month. I haven't made that payment yet. I can't.

Did that satisfy your curiosity? Do you feel better?

I apologize to all who have left such kind words of support and comfort. I'm certainly willing to review my budget with anyone who asks, but if bababooey is the person I believe him to be....let's just say that he won't get the satisfaction he was hoping.

You could try hooking...

Re: Hooking - so very true...but if I get caught doing that I'd lose my nursing license and my kid, forget my dignity. I'm much more concerned about being able to parent and help people who can benefit from my skills as a nurse.

Hey Joanie,

Maybe you can find some well meaning soul to sponge off of till you get back on your feet and then dump his sorry ass when you don't need him anymore.

Then again, you're the kind of person that one day when he needed the favor returned would turn around and do the decent thing and be a friend instead of acting like a total asshat in his comments.

Why do you even let his comment remain? I'd delete it and ban the IP. This is your blog, not Hyde freaking Park.

For the recored, you know how I feel about this, and what I can and can't do for you, and why.

Anyone who wants to criticize Da Goddess should bear in mind she's asking, not demanding, and relying on kindness and charity, not entitlement and bureaucracy.

er recored=record.

PIMF

I recently dumped a bunch of computer and Sue Grafton novels, not on e-Bay, where they don't fetch you diddly squat, but on Amazon.com, where I had sold three books and NETTED $46.00. Amazon has a cap on the highest price you should set for your used books, but of course, that wouldn't apply to anything in exceptional condition or something that is exceptionally rare or otherwise unique.

Worth considering?

And to the morons who keep posting all those "helpful suggestions," uh, usually by the time someone's gotten to the point where Joan is, putting pride aside to ask for help from friends and gentle readers, don't you think she's already sold or pawned pretty much anything that will bring in any kind of money? Don't you think that luxury items like air conditioning (although in the South and Southwest, I hardly consider that a luxury item) and cable (if it's not already party of the rent) would be the first ballast overboard? And I'm sure she's not sitting around getting her hair and nails done twice a month, if she ever DID do that.

Yeesh. Keep a chin up, Joan. And I'll send you an email later. I have some ideas.

Its a pretty low person that would use someone's misfortune to get their digs in, bababooey...

Rob, I think people like that get their kicks off other people's pain.

I think people like that get their kicks off other people's pain.

Ith,

I think you're being a bit generous with the use of the term "people". The humanity of such an individual can be called into question.

I'm so sorry to hear how things have been going. I'll send what I can to the Flag Fund!

Are you looking for pediatric nurse positions? Or, are there other nursing positions you can qualify for? I have some San Diego nursing friends and I'll ask around for you.

The black cloud will lift.

Debbie

Goddess...

If you'd like some help with your resume...shoot me a copy.

MajorDad1984@gmail.com

If you're interested in working for the government, I might have some hints you would find useful.

From the high ground...

MajorDad

Sweetie heart....start checking your mail in a couple of daze, K?

And you need to offer no explains to anyone of your situation...bemember that. You're just in one and that's all we need to know. We're aware of your caliber.

XoS

I don't know you, but I am good friend of acidman, I will send you some money tonight. I heard him talk about you on his blog, take care and keep fighting, things will get better, Cat.

That sucks so much. Damn I wish I was Bill Gates of could win the lotto. I was feeling sorry for myself just tonight because I am having a few medical problems and not able to work full time but your situation makes me feel bad about feeling sorry for myself. I have to deal with some of the people who want money from me tomorrow so there is nothing to send right now. That may change soon and I have a stickie note on my monitor to remember you then. Hang in there nice lady. Something will come along for you soon I'm sure.

Been there. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Prufrock

Goddess, is there something wrong with e-checks and paypal? I intend on you getting my money, not paypal.

Reading some of the dirty little comments you've received makes me wonder what good a cockroach is. But then I'm reminded that the human type are very necessary to the economy - to the war economy. Without them there'd be no wars at all.

Brian B.-"Why do you even let his comment remain? I'd delete it and ban the IP. This is your blog, not Hyde freaking Park."

Brian, as you know, you have to see evil before you can recognize it, and recognize it before you abhor it.

DG is letting us see it, though under no obligation to do so, of course.

Oh, and please check your e-mail, DG?

Man, some people are just scum. Amazing how brave these small souls are in the anonymity of cyberspace. A decent person would help if they could - and help can come in the form of money, expressions of support, or lending an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. A DECENT person, if they could offer none of these things, would just shut the hell up. But, as someone suggested, I think there are people who can only feel good about themselves at other's misfortune - and that must be a sad way to go through life, indeed.

FWIW- I usually view this site through the "Nurse" skin. I note she has her hand up in the V-for-victory salute. I see it as an omen. I also note that it's a little difficult to make out that index finger. Maybe some of the background color runs through? In any case, if you squint a little, it looks like she's showing her foes the Official Bird of the City of New York. I see that as an omen, too.

I don't see your email on here but will you shoot me an email please? I don't want to be posting all kinds of things on public comments but I want to help.

Hey sweetie - just stopped by after not reading any blogs for weeks due to meatspace craziness... I'll toss what I can into the Little Dude's fruit and veggies fund right now and do more next time I get paid - TGP and I just bought a house, so we're low on cash, rich on dirt - but we have a nice guest room if ya decide to extend your job search further north. Hugs and lovey dovey stuff... it will all work out.

Goddess...wish you the best of luck. I've been there (out of work 2 yrs). You're right, it doesn't make sense ate this point to work a a fast food place. Let's hope things don't get to that point. Network, network...something will come your way. Best of luck!!

Hello Jonie,
I saw via a message on a comment on another blog that you were unemployed, well, here is something I saw when looking at Canadiannurse.com (http://www.canadianurse.com/Albertajob.html)

LOCATION: San Diego, California
COMPANY: American Nursing Solutions
JOB TITLE: Excellent opportunity
ADDRESS:
American Nursing Solutions
Att: Human Resources
TELEPHONE NUMBER: (858) 205-3224
FAX NUMBER: (858) 674-7471
E-MAIL: nurse @ usa . net
JOB DESCRIPTION:
American Nursing Solutions invites RN's for nursing home jobs in sunny San Diego, California, USA.
Excellent opportunity to work in superb nursing facilities in a wonderful weather all around the year.
Good benefits/competitive salary. We represent a network of various nursing facilities
in Southern California who are constantly in need of RN's.
Experience preferred but employers will train.
Placement at the earliest if requirements fulfilled.

Legal Assistance: Attorneys available for providing assistance in green card
procedures and other legal matters including initial TN Visa procedures.

Requirements:
Must have Canadian Citizenship
Eligibility for California Licensure: Have passed NCLEX OR Hold Interim License
in state of California OR have passed Five-part test before 1980;
Fluency in English

Send resume to: nurse @ usa . net
Telephone number: 1-858-205-3224
Fax number: 1-858-674-7471

Please tell American Nursing Solutions you saw their job vacancy on Canadian Nurse.com

oh yes... there are more positons being posted on the Canadian site for California, so I would expect you'd be able to find a job in short order!

Hiya,
Having just been through the same pain, let me offer some sympathy. I am sorry that I can't offer any financial assistance as I am still catching up with the bills from my 80 days of unemployment. I can offer a few prayers and heartful good wishes though ....