Men, why are you so complicated?
Since when has it ever been a good thing to jump into a relationship with someone you don’t know?
Since when are you supposed to abandon all common sense and rush into something?
Never. That’s right. NEVER.
So how do you explain that to someone who is intent on rushing? I’ve said, “this isn’t a race. I enjoy spending time with you and it’s fun. I like getting to know you, but I don’t want a ‘relationship’ at this point. I want to find out who you are and what you’re about before I throw the door open and welcome you into my life any further.” Or something like that. In other words, I’ve said “I’m not looking for a boyfriend or anything serious right now. Slow down.”
And this…this is the guy who freaked out after we had one dinner and a movie and couldn’t handle “where this might lead.” Two days after we had said dinner and movie. Then he turned around within two hours and was all “I miss you!” “When do I get to see you again?” I did see him again and told him “this is cute once. Twice? It’s a little neurotic. Three times? Insane and I run away…if I haven’t already after the second time. SLOW DOWN, cowboy.” So, of course there was a second time and of course he sort of freaked out. And he wonders why I’m reluctant to spend time with him? Uh…call the Hardy Boys. They’re good at solving mysteries, my friend.
I don’t understand men, obviously. If I were looking for a relationship, I can guaran-damn-tee you I’d find no one. But now that I don’t want one, men are freaking out because I don’t. WTF? Why can’t we just hang out and have a few laughs? Why can’t we just chill?
Really, the last thing I want is to rush into something with someone I don’t know and then find out I don’t even really like who he is. It ends up with everyone getting hurt. Been there, done that. I don’t want to be hurt and I don’t want him to be hurt either. I think that’s the only decent way to approach dating anymore.
What’s up, guys? Why are you so complicated?